Does your child come home crying that “nobody will play with me” or “everyone laughs at me”? If it only happens now and then, just listen and reassure her. But if peer problems seem to be chronic, it’s time to take action.
6 ways to help your child with peer problems
Talk to the teacher.
The teacher may be able to make some adjustments in the classroom, such as pairing your child with someone they may get along well with, or talk to the other kids about their behavior.
Help your child fit in.
There’s no need to spend a fortune on the latest styles, but if your child is being rejected for something they are willing to change, help your child do so.
Minimize negative habits.
Some kids get shut out because they don’t bathe frequently enough, or they pick their nose, or their social skills are otherwise lacking.
Remind your child of their strengths.
When a child knows they’re good at something, it’s easier for them to cope when peers say mean things.
Teach your child to stand up for themself.
Talk to your child about different strategies they can use when classmates tease or are unkind. Does your school have an SEL program or a policy about how students treat each other?
Arrange playdates.
Children act differently when they’re not part of a large herd. So look for children who share similar interests with your child and invite them over.
